People don’t have confidence because they don’t trust themselves.
This is evident in all walks of life, at all levels of whichever hierarchy you look at.
There are some individuals who have self-trust and confidence, and some who don’t.
But do you know why?
Trainer, Speaker, and Bestselling Author of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker has seen this in his students, and also in himself.
On his journey from broke to millionaire, he learned to cultivate self-trust and confidence, and today, he teaches his students how to do the same.
Right here, right now, it’s your turn to learn from Harv’s experience how to go from debilitating doubt to soaring self-trust and confidence for infinite success because…
If you don’t trust yourself, you don’t get rich.
What would you fear, if you knew you could trust yourself?
Harv believes he can tell you exactly what you’ll fear…
Nothing.
However, 99% of the global population don’t trust themselves, he says, and therefore have no confidence to take action when necessary.
What this state creates in their normal lives is stress and chaos as the effects of distrust seep into every crack in their foundation.
Like with everything else, what generated Harv’s self-trust and confidence was repetition, Harv states.
Trust is a habit.
Confidence is a habit.
Repeating actions that support your best life is a habit, he adds.
And where do habits originate from?
Your thoughts!
Here’s an example.
In the late ‘60s, Harv owned the only kind of car he could afford.
It was a very used one.
On cold days, there was a 50/50 chance that his ramshackle would start.
Harv had to go outside early to try and get it started.
Then it was a game of wait-and-see.
And when it did start, it would stall for pretty much half the time he was driving it.
Because of the constant uncertainty, Harv admits that he was paralyzed with fear each time he got into his car.
“Is it going to start? Am I going to get to school?”
He says that he simply didn’t know.
His ever-present anxiety about whether or not the frickin’ car would fire up extended beyond the arrival at his destination, he adds.
He felt embarrassed by this uncertainty, even if it was in the past.
This made him feel more nervous about himself overall.
From his car issue, he confirms that he didn’t know how to trust himself.
Does this sound familiar?
If you can relate this feeling to instances in your life, chances are you don’t yet know how to trust yourself either, says Harv.
Today, is it likely that Harv trusts that his car will start?
Yes, of course he trusts his car will start, because it’s started consistently for a thousand consecutive times.
And he’s not had any issues with his car during all those times.
So, how can you learn to trust something?
If Harv’s example tells you anything, it is that you learn to trust results when they repeat again and again.
Now how will you learn to trust yourself?
According to Harv, by getting the same results again and again until you can say… “Of course I trust this result. I expect it. I trust that this situation is going to happen.”
Start small, he says, with one minor victory.
Go for a smaller goal, urges Harv, just one tiny thing, that you can win at.
People learn to distrust themselves, according to Harv, usually because they’ve taken on too much.
If you’d like to finally follow through on that New Year’s resolution of shedding some pounds to feel and look better, Harv says you can forget about the exercise and healthy eating plans you clamored for in the past, because if they didn’t work for you then, they won’t work for you now.
And while it’s been years since you’ve bothered paying attention to your health, try this one thing Harv recommends instead…
Create one new habit.
How simple is it to create just one new habit by replacing just one meal?
Of course, if you feel you’re ready to commit to more than one, awesome!
Whatever works, be it two meals or two days, says Harv.
What is important is that you commit to, at the very least, one healthy meal.
What represents one healthy breakfast?
Is that hard?
You’re not considering lunch or supper, just breakfast - one meal.
You simply say, “Tomorrow for breakfast I’m having a healthy shake.”
And then you do exactly that, he adds.
That’s what’s for breakfast.
Have your lunch a few hours later and choose what you’ll have then.
Harv urges you to experiment with this for a week, and perhaps give yourself two days’ break from doing it — you might choose to, you might not.
The point he’s making is that it should be a small win with as little pressure as possible at first.
These minor victories here matter more than your bigger picture ahead does, Harv asserts.
Trust that you will get to that.
You started with only one healthy breakfast and you decided to set it up in a way where you could win.
When you’re winning, you’re gaining confidence, says Harv.
As you gain confidence, you also gain trust.
With enough small wins under your belt, Harv bets that you’ll be taking on bigger goals soon.
Guaranteed, one day you’ll realize “Wow, I’ve been doing this for weeks, and it really wasn’t that hard. Now I’m ready for [fill in the blank]” whatever your next win is for you.
Regardless of the goal, Harv mentions that the principle remains the same.
If you feel you can’t trust yourself in one aspect of your life, you’re unlikely to trust yourself in many other ways as well, he adds.
Where trust is lacking, Harv knows it affects your life across all boundaries mentally conceived.
The content and substance simply change.
This time it may be relevant to eating, another time it may relate to business and the next time it pertains to your relationships.
In the same way that these problems are connected, Harv says so are the solutions.
If you can learn to trust yourself, he believes that many current issues in your life will simply disappear.
Now that you understand the correlation between self-trust and confidence by means of addressing one single habit at a time - until it becomes second nature - you might wonder how you get rich…
How you do anything is how you do everything. -T. Harv Eker
The key rests in your energy.
Although your subconscious programming, childhood blueprint, and traumatic life experiences may have shaped who you are today, you have a choice to make.
Stay where you are, continue doing what you’ve been doing and keep getting the same results, or replace the habits that don’t support your highest potential and experience success in every area of your life.
Once you make the decision to learn how to develop a millionaire mindset, you’ll understand that you were never meant to stay broke, unhappy, and crippled with a limited belief system.
With a millionaire mindset, and by using language that supports your best life, you reinforce the supportive beliefs of self-worth, real value, self-trust, and confidence in your daily conduct.
While you replace any limiting beliefs, you spend more time focused on what brings you joy, staying busy with what you’re passionate about, learning to master the skills required to build the life you desire, and spending time with like-minded individuals.
Your success relies on your willingness to do what truly is best for you, to take action where it’s required, and to know what to say no to.
Applying millionaire mind principles to all levels of your life means embracing the true you, and what follows that attitude is an inevitable success.
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Has your Mind ever wondered…
The relationship you have with yourself is the relationship you will have with everyone and everything around you.
Building the habit of trusting yourself builds confidence because it reinforces desirable results over and over again.
From a business perspective, where there is integrity, there is trust as everyone from employees to customers witness favorable results consistently.
This breeds confidence for more business as a work ethic based on integrity, trust, and confidence leaves a legacy of wealth.
It is self-trust that builds confidence, and the confidence gained through minor victories reinforces self-trust in turn.
Start small by changing one habit, one small thing that is doable.
Do this consistently, and purposefully, and witness the result.
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