As you progress along your own personal road to success, you will learn one very important thing...
Your former experiences and understanding of money have a huge impact on how you approach money as an adult and if you stay stuck in the past, you will not get rich.
Author of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker, learned that he had to let go of his own conditioning to enable wealth to come into his life, and through various programs and his book, he helps others to do the same.
So today, we explore a story he shares with his students to impart the value of getting unstuck from past experiences.
When most wealthy people think about money, they feel calm.
While it’s true that rich people care about money, they have learned that feeling anxious and worried about money does not enable them to make confident, level-headed decisions when it comes to their business and various investments.
Money is much like a supercharger for many of the rich.
It helps them think clearer and better, says Harv.
For everyone else with an unhealthy or undesirable net worth, the opposite is true, especially if specific incidents in your past still hamper the way you're thinking about money.
This in turn, according to Harv, affects your ability to become wealthy.
Harv has come to learn that, for many people, early experiences in life that involved money also involved fear and anger.
Often, these emotions were triggered in scary events that left a deep impression on us as children.
As an example, consider the story that Harv shares of Ronelle Jones.
He recalls that Ronelle struggled with money for most of her adult life.
Much as she longed to be able to clear her debts, save for her children’s college fund, and be comfortable, she never seemed to get there.
Ronelle had many different jobs, started her own business, and even invested, but whenever she got close to achieving her goals, she would begin to feel scared.
Something would always go wrong in her quest to be comfortable, let alone achieve real success, and she would lose out on her chance to become financially free.
Just when Ronelle was about to lose hope, she met a wealth coach.
She described how she would get close to her goals and then fail to meet them.
They discussed many things that had happened to her along her road to success.
Ronelle admitted that whenever she got close to success, she would get ill.
Eventually, her wealth coach asked her a question that would change everything.
She asked, “Did either of your parents ever get unusually ill when you were young? What was their financial status at the time?”
Ronelle was shocked by the question.
She then remembered that when she was 10, her father bought a business that at first seemed like it was set for huge success.
Just as he was about to get on his path to wealth, Ronelle’s mother was diagnosed with cancer.
In order to pay for the hospital bills, Ronelle’s father had to sell the business.
His chance never came around again.
As her coach talked Ronelle through the details of the specific incident of her mother’s diagnosis and her father’s failure, she had a lightbulb moment.
All of the negative emotions that were seeping through her house when Ronelle was a child were still with her.
Whenever she came close to financial success, those feelings overwhelmed her, and she got sick just as her mother had gotten sick.
This turning point was Ronelle’s first introduction to the understanding of how our inner laws affect our views of the world, and how we approach success.
Once she was able to change her attitude towards wealth, she could stop sabotaging her own success.
From that point, Harv announces, there was nothing standing in Ronelle’s way of achieving her dreams
There is a lot that can be taken from her story, especially the link between childhood events and her current attitude toward finances.
Once you have started to throw out the old ideas that held you back from success, Harv reckons it gets much easier to create the right ideas that then in turn can help you achieve better finances.
If you're unhappy, dissatisfied, struggling to make ends meet, or not achieving your goals, you have to realize something must change.
Blaming someone is pointless as there isn't much you can do about what has happened.
However, you absolutely have the power and responsibility to design a better future for your finances by adopting a mindset that favors fortune in all aspects of your life.
If you're stuck in the past, then get unstuck by being here, now.
It is solely up to you to take action.
In the spirit of presence and excellent money habits, choosing to manage your money well can be so much easier when you're able to track and trend your growth.
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Has your Mind ever wondered...
An inability to be present, enjoy the moment, feel optimistic/inspired, adapt/adjust, or set/achieve goals and success is primarily caused by an emotional anchor to a past event/incident that programmed the blueprint adversely.
Make a conscious choice to heal the subconscious.
Create a daily habit of facing your fears and triggers responsibly, instead of avoiding them or reacting emotionally.
Choose a rational response.
When you’re unable to recognize your blessings in the present and cling to judgment or fear over what happened in the past, you’re failing to understand what you have control over and feel powerless.
Having gratitude for being able to grow from past experiences can help you move beyond the emotional anchor.
Importante libertar das tristezas do passado aprendendo com elas e resignificando.
[Translated from Portuguese: It is important to free yourself from the sadness of the past by learning from them and giving new meaning.]